*Masturbation: Masturbation is a minor sin; and a minor sin becomes major if done everyday.

Example: if u break a traffic rules and you are fined INR 1,000.00 ; but if you break the rule everyday and fined INR 1,000.00; by the end of the month your fine will add upto INR 30,000.00.

A safer approach is not to take any sin easily and lightly; major and minor both. As Allah may forgive major sin after repentance; and a person can be in hell for doing minor sins for which he has taken lightly and not asked for forgiveness and not repented.

*PORN: It is haram (strictly prohibited) to watch PORN and forward videos, photos and magazines etc. to others to indulge in it.

As per Quran 16:90, 24:21 and 29:45 Committing Al Fahisha (indecency, immorality, illegal sex) is a great sin and Allah do not like people who transgress…

“Verily, Allah enjoins Al-‘Adl (i.e. justice and worshipping none but Allah Alone – Islamic Monotheism) and Al-Ihsan [i.e. to be patient in performing your duties to Allah, totally for Allah’s sake and in accordance with the Sunnah (legal ways) of the Prophet in a perfect manner], and giving (help) to kith and kin (i.e. all that Allah has ordered you to give them e.g., wealth, visiting, looking after them, or any other kind of help), and forbids Al-Fahsha’ (i.e all evil deeds, e.g. illegal sexual acts, disobedience of parents, polytheism, to tell lies, to give false witness, to kill a life without right), and Al-Munkar (i.e all that is prohibited by Islamic law: polytheism of every kind, disbelief and every kind of evil deeds), and Al-Baghy (i.e. all kinds of oppression). He admonishes you, that you may take heed.” (Quran-16:90) 

“O you who believe! Follow not the footsteps of Shaitan (Satan). And whosoever follows the footsteps of Shaitan (Satan), then, verily he commands Al-Fahsha’ [i.e. to commit indecency (illegal sexual intercourse)], and Al-Munkar [disbelief and polytheism (i.e. to do evil and wicked deeds; and to speak or to do what is forbidden in Islam)]. And had it not been for the Grace of Allah and His Mercy on you, not one of you would ever have been pure from sins. But Allah purifies (guides to Islam) whom He wills, and Allah is All-Hearer, All-Knower.” (Quran 24:21)

“Recite (O Muhammad what has been revealed to you of the Book (the Qur’an), and perform As-Salat(h) (Iqamat-as-Salat). Verily, As-Salat(h) (the prayer) prevents from Al-Fahsha’ (i.e. great sins of every kind, unlawful sexual intercourse) and Al-Munkar (i.e. disbelief, polytheism, and every kind of evil wicked deed) and the remembering (praising) of (you by) Allah (in front of the angels) is greater indeed [than your remembering (praising) of Allah in prayers. And Allah knows what you do.” (Quran 29:45)

*Oral Sex: kissing private parts is allowed in Islam, but licking private parts like anus or vagina is haram (Prohibited). As per research and survey done by medical science it causes diseases like herpes etc.…

Also its common sense, we use our tongue to taste food and drink and is used for zikr (remembrance of Allah); its indecent to use tongue to lick at unhygienic place…

*Anal Sex, Homosexuality/Lesbianism/Incest: Allah has cursed people who indulge in anal sex (26:168).

Homosexuality/Lesbianism/Incest is haram (strictly prohibited) in Islam.

{“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a great sin and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives”} [Quran, 17: 32]

Also if any man forces his wife to indulge in anal sex, oral sex and sex during periods will fall in the category of domestic violence and can ask for divorce…

(Quran 26:168) Prophet Lut said: “I am, indeed, of those who disapprove with severe anger and fury your (this evil) action (of sodomy).

*Fornication and Adultery (Sex other than your spouse): Fornication and Adultery (Zina) is a major sin and is strictly prohibited in Islam.

Allah The Almighty Says: {“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a great sin and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives”} [Quran, 17: 32]

*Allah The Almighty made the punishment for these sins vary from lashing to stoning to death, along with the humiliation which results from informing the community of the perpetrators of this sin. Allah The Almighty Says (what means): The fornicatress and the fornicator, flog each of them with a hundred stripes. Let not pity withhold you in their case, in a punishment prescribed by Allah, if you believe in Allah and the Last Day. And let a party of the believers witness their punishment. (This punishment is for unmarried persons guilty of the above crime, but if married persons commit it (illegal sex), the punishment is to stone them to death, according to Allah’s Law).} [Quran, 24: 2]

The adulterer will only marry an adulteress or Mushrikah (one who is an idolatress or polytheist). And the adulteress, she will only be married to an adulterer or Mushrik (an idolater or polytheist). And this has been forbidden for the believers. (Quran 24:3)

*The Prophet set the penalty for adultery and fornication as follows:”If the parties (committing fornication) are unmarried, they should receive a hundred lashes and be put into exile for a year. If they commit adultery after they are married, they should receive a hundred lashes and then be stoned to death.” [Muslim]

Effects that zina has on the soul (or on one’s psyche):

Zina encompasses all the characteristics of evil: lack of religious commitment, loss of piety, loss of chivalry, lack of protective jealousy (gheerah). You will not find any adulterer who is pious, or keeps his promises, or speaks truthfully, or is a good friend, or has complete protective jealousy towards his family. Treachery, lying, betrayal, lack of modesty, lack of awareness that Allah is always watching, lack of chivalry, loss of protective jealousy from the heart – these are the effects and implications of zina.

One of the effects of zina is that it earns the wrath of Allah because His sacred limits are transgressed.

Allah has forbidden Paradise to every evil person, and He has made Paradise the abode of the good, and no one will enter it but those who are good.

*How to avoid zina (illicit sex)?:

Fasting:

Narrated `Abdullah: We were with the Prophet (ﷺ) while we were young and had no wealth. So Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power.

(Sahih Bukhari Hadith No.5066)

Lower the gaze: “Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what they do.” (Quran 24:30)

“And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers, their brothers’ sons, their sisters’ sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed..” (Quran 24:31)

Stop watching porn, movies/serials, and avoid reading magazines or newspapers which has pictures of opposite sex.

*AL-Laghwa (Vain Talk or abusive language and bad words): Laghw means “evil vain talk”, dirty, false, falsehood, nonsensical, meaningless and anything forbidden by Allah. It refers to anything which serves no purpose or goal in a proper Muslim life.

According to the Chapter Al Furqan in Quran, Muslims are to avoid such things and pay them no mind; “… if they pass by some evil play or evil talk, they pass by it with dignity”.

Avoiding Laghw is an important attribute for being a successful Muslim as described in Sura Mu’minun (The Believers) of the (Qur’an 23: 1-9.)

“Successful indeed are the believers. Who offer Salat with all solemnity and full submissiveness. Those who turn away from Al-Laghw (dirty, false, evil & forbidden speech). Those who pay Zakat Those who guard there chastity.”

*Ghusl (Ritual bath): Ghusl is mandatory after intercourse (even though there is no ejaculation).

Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) , who said: “When a man sits between the four parts (arms and legs of his wife) and has intercourse with her, then ghusl is obligatory.”

Muslim added: “Even if he does not ejaculate.

(Sahih Bukhari Hadith No.291, Sahih Muslim Hadith No.348)

Ghusl is not obligatory after emission of madhiy.

* What is Madhiy (urethral fluid)?:

Madhiy is white and thin, and is emitted when feeling desire either when thinking or otherwise, but no pleasure is felt when it is emitted, and desire does not cease when it is emitted. Note: This fluid is other than semen.

* Madhiy is impure and must be washed off if it gets onto the body. As for clothes, if Madhiy gets onto them it is sufficient to purify them by sprinkling them with water. The emission of Madhiy invalidates Wudu’ but it is not essential to do Ghusl after it is emitted.

*How to do Ghusl (Ritual bath): To perform Ghusl, begin with the intention to purify yourself, then wash your hands and private parts.

Next, perform a full wudu (ablution), followed by pouring water over your head and ensuring it reaches the roots of your hair.

Finally, pour water over your entire body from top to bottom, making sure every part is washed, before washing your feet to complete the ritual.

The full steps for Ghusl

1. Make the intention: In your heart, intend to perform Ghusl for the purpose of purification.
2. Wash hands and private parts: Wash your hands three times, then wash your private parts thoroughly. After washing the private parts, wash your hands again.
3. Perform Wudu: Perform a complete Wudu as you would for prayer, which includes washing your face, arms, and wiping your head, but you can delay washing your feet until the end.
4. Wash your head: Pour water over your head three times, making sure to rub your fingers through your hair to ensure water reaches the scalp.
5. Wash your body: Pour water over your right side first, from your shoulders down to your feet, then do the same for your left side. Ensure that the water reaches all parts of your body, including under the arms and behind the ears.
6. Wash your feet: Wash your feet to complete the process.

 There are two primary ways to perform ghusl (ritual bath): the obligatory and simplest form, and the complete and recommended (Sunnah) method.

The complete method offers a more thorough spiritual and physical cleansing.

Obligatory (simple) ghusl

This is the minimum requirement for a valid ghusl. It is sufficient if done by standing under a shower or immersing your body in a pool.

1. State your intention (niyyah):Make the sincere intention in your heart to perform ghusl to cleanse yourself from major impurity for the sake of Allah.
2. Wash the entire body:Ensure that water reaches every part of your body, including your hair roots, rinsing the inside of your mouth and nostrils.

Complete (Sunnah) ghusl

This method is recommended and provides a more comprehensive purification by following the practice of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him).

1. Make your intention (niyyah):Intend in your heart to purify yourself from major impurity.
2. Say “Bismillah”(In the name of Allah).
3. Wash your handsthree times up to the wrists.
4. Wash your private parts and remove any filthfrom your body with your left hand. Wash your hands again after this step.
5. Perform a full wudu (ablution)as you would for prayer, but delay washing your feet if the bathing area is dirty or holds standing water. You can wash them later.
6. Pour water over your headthree times, massaging your hair to ensure water reaches the roots.
7. Wash your body:Pour water over your body, starting with your right side and then your left. Rub your hands over all areas to ensure no spot is left dry.
8. Wash your feet:If you delayed washing your feet during wudu, wash them now at the very end.

Key considerations

• For women with braided hair: When performing ghusl to remove sexual impurity (janabah), it is not necessary to undo your braids. You can simply pour water over your head three times and ensure it reaches the roots.
• For women after menstruation (hayd): It is recommended to unbraid your hair to ensure a more thorough cleansing. You should also use a piece of cloth with musk or other perfume to cleanse the private area after completing the ghusl.
• Ensure no part is left dry: It is critical that water reaches every part of your body. If you remember that a spot was missed, simply wash that portion instead of repeating the entire ghusl.
• Avoid touching private parts: During the ghusl, be careful not to touch your private parts with the inside of your hand. If you do, your wudu is broken, though your ghusl remains valid. You would need to perform a new wudu before praying.
• Purity of water: The water used for ghusl must be clean and unmixed with any impure substances.

 *Intercourse during menstruation is haraam (prohibited):

“They ask you concerning menstruation. Say: that is an adha (a harmful thing for a husband to have a sexual intercourse with his wife while she is having her menses), therefore, keep away from women during menses and go not unto them till they are purified (from menses and have taken a bath) (Quran 2:222)

*Sex in month of Ramadan: Intercourse during the day in Ramadan is haram for men and women alike, who are obliged to fast during the day. Doing that is a sin for which expiation (kaffarah) must be offered. The kaffarah is to free a slave; if that is not possible then the person must fast for two consecutive months; whoever is not able to do that must feed sixty poor persons. 

*Intercourse during the night in Ramadan: this is permitted and is not forbidden; and the time when it is permitted lasts until the onset of dawn. When dawn comes, intercourse becomes forbidden.

*Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“It is made lawful for you to have sexual relations with your wives on the night of As-Sawm (the fasts). They are Libaas [i.e. body-cover, or screen, or Sakan (i.e. you enjoy the pleasure of living with them] for you and you are the same for them. Allah knows that you used to deceive yourselves, so He turned to you (accepted your repentance) and forgave you. So now have sexual relations with them and seek that which Allah has ordained for you (offspring), and eat and drink until the white thread (light) of dawn appears to you distinct from the black thread (darkness of night), then complete your Sawm (fast) till the nightfall”[Quran 2:187]

This verse clearly states that it is permissible to eat, drink and have intercourse during the nights of Ramadan until dawn.

*After having intercourse it is obligatory to do ghusl, then pray Fajr. 

*Wet dream and semen discharge in Ramadan: Having a wet dream during the daytime of Ramadan does not affect the validity of fasting because the pen of recording deeds is lifted from the sleeping person; i.e. he is not held accountable for his deeds because he has no way to avert what he encounters during his sleep.

However, he should make ghusl once the time of the prayer comes, based on the words of Allah, the Almighty, (what means): {Do not approach prayer while you are in a state of janabah [state of major ritual impurity] until you have washed [your whole body].} [Quran 4:43]

*If semen comes out intentionally through masturbation, kissing, or lustful contact (with the wife), fasting is invalidated and one must make up for that day (Kaffarah)

Similarly, if the discharge of semen results from looking repeatedly (at what arouses the desire), it invalidates fasting according to the predominant opinion in the sight of some scholars.

If the discharge of semen results from having arousing thoughts only, it does not invalidate fasting. The evidence is the statement of the Messenger of Allah , who said, “Verily, Allah has forgiven the people of my Ummah (community) the evil thoughts which occur to their minds as long as they do not execute them or speak of them.” [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]

*Woman’s period in month of Ramadan: If a woman gets her period while fasting, her fast is spoiled, even if the blood comes a moment before sunset, and she has to make that up if it was an obligatory fast. It is haram for her to continue fasting when she is menstruating.

The ummah is unanimously agreed that it is haram for women who are menstruating or bleeding following childbirth to fast and that their fast is not valid… The ummah is also unanimously agreed that it is obligatory for these women to make up missed Ramadaan fasts. Al-Tirmidhi,

*Cleanliness:  “They ask thee concerning women’s courses. Say: They are a hurt and a pollution: So keep away from women in their courses, and do not approach them until they are clean. But when they have purified themselves, ye may approach them in any manner, time, or place ordained for you by Allah. For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean (Quran 2:222)

“O ye who believe! when ye prepare for prayer, wash your faces, and your hands (and arms) to the elbows; Rub your heads (with water); and (wash) your feet to the ankles. If ye are in a state of ceremonial impurity, bathe your whole body. But if ye are ill, or on a journey, or one of you cometh from offices of nature, or ye have been in contact with women, and ye find no water, then take for yourselves clean sand or earth, and rub therewith your faces and hands, Allah doth not wish to place you in a difficulty, but to make you clean, and to complete his favour to you, that ye may be grateful. (Quran 5:6)

*Impure Men and Women:

Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honorable. (Quran 24:26)

*Co-Education and Co-Working: Co-Education and Co-Working is unislamic and strictly prohibited in Islam.

Wisdom behind being prohibited is it is natural for men and women get attracted to each other and desire for lust and illicit sex will arise.

Fornication and Adultery is haraam (strictly prohibited) in Islam. Islam stops any action or event to take place which leads to haraam activities.

“O MANKIND! Partake of what is lawful and good on earth, and follow not Satan’s footsteps: for, verily, he is your open foe,:  (Quran 2:168)

Haya (modesty) leads to solemnity and to tranquility (peace of mind).

“Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what they do.” (Quran 24:30)

“And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers, their brothers’ sons, their sisters’ sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed..” (Quran 24:31)

*Boyfriend/Girlfriend culture: In Islam, the culture of having a boyfriend or girlfriend in a romantic relationship outside of marriage is considered haram (forbidden).

Instead of dating, Islam encourages getting to know potential spouses through a supervised, respectful, and family-oriented process that leads to marriage (nikah). This approach is intended to prevent relationships from leading to behaviors deemed immoral or illicit, and to maintain purity.

*Islamic approach to relationships:

Marriage is the only acceptable way:

The only permissible way for a man and woman to be in a romantic relationship is after they are married.

Discouragement of pre-marital relationships:

Relationships that lead to romantic intimacy, physical contact, and sexual relationships outside of marriage are considered a major sin.

Instead of dating, seek to marry:

If a person likes someone, they should pursue marriage through their families, with the potential spouse’s family, and in a way that aligns with Islamic principles. This can involve a formal proposal and an engagement, which can be ended if things don’t work out.

Family and community involvement:

The process of getting to know someone is often guided by the family or a trusted community member to ensure it is respectful and appropriate.

Guidance for those unable to marry:

The Quran encourages those who cannot afford to marry to remain chaste until they are financially able to do so, with fasting mentioned as a way to help control desire.  

*Why are boyfriend/girlfriend relationships forbidden?

 Preventing immorality:

The system is designed to prevent pre-marital sex and other behaviors that are considered immoral in Islam.

Avoiding potential for sin:

Islamic teachings warn that men and women being alone together can lead to illicit relationships, and Satan may inspire them to do wrong.

Emphasis on purity:

The aim is to protect the dignity, honor, and purity of individuals for their future spouse.

Preventing zina: Islamic teachings forbid any intimate contact outside of marriage. The Quran warns Muslims to “not even go close to fornication”. Romantic relationships in a boyfriend-girlfriend culture are seen as a gateway to illicit sexual acts.

Avoiding temptation: The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) taught that when an unrelated man and woman are alone together, Satan is the third person present. To prevent temptation, Islam sets clear guidelines for interaction between non-mahrams (unmarriageable relatives), including avoiding private meetings and unnecessary physical contact.

The Quran’s stance: The Quran explicitly forbids taking “secret lovers” or “boyfriends”. (Quran 4:25) and (Quran 5:5) permit marriage to chaste women, but not those who are adulterous or have boyfriends.

“And [lawful in marriage are] chaste women from among the believers and chaste women from among those who were given the Scripture before you, when you have given them their due compensation, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual intercourse or taking [secret] lovers. And whoever denies the faith – his work has become worthless, and he, in the Hereafter, will be among the losers.”

*Live-in Relationship: In Islam, a live-in relationship is strictly prohibited, as it is considered an avenue to premarital or extramarital sexual relations, which are classified as the major sin of zina. Islamic teachings emphasize the sanctity of marriage (nikah) as the only permissible framework for a man and woman to live together and engage in intimacy.

Key Islamic principles on cohabitation

Prohibition of zina: The Quran explicitly commands Muslims to “not go near adultery. It is truly a shameful deed and an evil way”. Scholars interpret this not only as forbidding the act itself but also all related behaviors that could lead to it, including living together without marriage.

No premarital intimacy: The Islamic view is that any form of intimate physical contact is reserved for the marital bond. A live-in relationship, by its very nature, often involves physical intimacy outside the bounds of marriage, making it unlawful.

Family and social stability: Marriage in Islam is a social contract that establishes a family unit with defined rights and responsibilities for both partners and any children. A live-in relationship is seen as undermining this institution and creating instability in the family and society by not providing the legal and social protections marriage offers.

Preventing seclusion: Islamic tradition forbids a man and a non-mahram (unmarriageable relative) woman from being alone together in private. A live-in arrangement is a form of continuous seclusion that violates this principle and increases the temptation to commit sin.

Marriage as a solution: Rather than seeing marriage as a mere formality, Islam presents it as a virtuous way to fulfill companionship and intimacy. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) encouraged getting married to protect oneself from temptation.

*Temporary marriage:

Concept of Temporary marriage vs Conditional marriage in Islam:

In Islam, fornication, adultery and concept of libe-in relationship or boyfriend-girlfriend is haraam (strictly prohibited – unislamic), and Marriage is encouraged to avoid such illicit relationship.

There are 3 types of marriage concept out of which 2 are allowed and halal (permissible) in Islam and 1 is haram (strictly prohibited) and unislamic.

1) Temporary marriage called Mutah is haram (strictly prohibited) in Islam and is a type of fornication, where a boy and a girl marry for a specific length of time (days or months)

2) Normal Marriages: These type of marriage which generally takes place legally in all cultures, where after marriage girl goes to her husband house to stay.

3) Conditional marriage also known as Misyar marriage in Islam, where after marrying legally, girl don’t go to stay with her husband, but stays with her parents or separately, and husband-wife meet each other for love and sex.

The reason behind such marriage is
a) some women need to stay in their family home, either because they are the only care-givers for family members, or parents are old and she has to take care of them.

1. b) or because the woman is handicap and her family do not want the husband to be burdened with something he cannot bear, and he stays in touch with her without having to put too great a burden on himself
2. c) or because she is divorced or widow and has children, and cannot move with them to her husband’s house
3. d) in some cases a man has 2 or more wives and and do not want to keep them together to avoid any issues.
4. e) in some cases boy do not have separate flat or home and stays in joint family and to accommodate another person is not possible, or girl feels uncomfortable staying with them in joint family.

*Charity for doing(mixing) good deeds and bad deeds together:

And [there are] others who have acknowledged their sins. They had mixed a righteous deed with another that was bad. Perhaps Allah will turn to them in forgiveness. Indeed, Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.

Take, [O, Muhammad], from their wealth a charity by which you purify them and cause them increase, and invoke [ Allah ‘s blessings] upon them. Indeed, your invocations are reassurance for them. And Allah is Hearing and Knowing.

Do they not know that it is Allah who accepts repentance from His servants and receives charities and that it is Allah who is the Accepting of repentance, the Merciful? (Quran 9:102-104)